What Is Ghosting?
So, what is ghosting? It’s when someone all of sudden stops talking/communicating with you, like they’ve dropped off the face of the earth. It’s commonly known as a modern-day dating term, but can also be applied to friendships and business.
The term “Ghosting” came about with the popularity of datings apps like Tinder, Match, and OKCupid. On dating apps, there are plenty of fish in the sea. So, if a better fish comes along, they’ll leave the other fish behind without notice.
The motives of a ghoster are on a case-by-case basis. For example, a guy may ghost a girl he’s dating if he has found someone new. Ghosting someone is sometimes better, so the ghosted is spared from hurt feelings. However, this can leave the person ghosted feeling confused and worried. Every ghosting situation is different, and how you respond to it will be different as well.
How To Respond To Ghosting
If you believe you’ve been ghosted on, there are certain ways of how to respond to it. Below, we discuss how to respond to ghosting in a relationship, in a friendship, and in business.
Ghosting In A Relationship And Friendship
How to respond to ghosting is similar when it comes to relationships and friendships. If you find yourself being ghosted by your partner or friend, here are the best ways to react.
Send A Text Or Call Only Once
Typically when ghosted, anyone would be worried and left wondering if something bad happened to the person. To ease some of the worries, the best thing to do is text and/or call the person. However, only do this once, as continuing to contact them is overkill and will drain your energy.
Change Your Mindset And Accept The Situation
As said, being ghosted comes with feelings of concern, obsession, and anxiety. Having those feelings initially is okay. However, after some time, you need to accept the situation and realize that the person ghosted you. There’s nothing you can do to persuade a ghoster or force them to contact you.
Don’t Rant About Them On Social Media
Just as a rule of thumb, avoid ranting about any personal matters on social media, especially when ghosted. It won’t do you or the ghoster any good. It will just prolong an already hurtful and awkward situation.
Ghosting In Business
In business, you can be ghosted by job applicants and current employees. Job applicants could ghost employers by not showing up to their interview or not giving their answer regarding a job offer. A current employee could just not show up one day to work, without notice or a resignation letter. If your business has a history of ghosting incidents, here’s how to deal with it.
Follow Up With The Person
As an employer, you should follow up with applicants and employees who ghost you. Even though you likely didn’t appreciate being ghosted, you need to be professional. Be courteous and email or call the person once.
Formulate A Plan
When a job applicant or employee backs out, you need to come up with a plan. For a job applicant, you need to decide whether there are other applicants who can fill the open position, or if you need to do more interviews.
When current employees suddenly leave, their workload has to be passed on to someone to be done. You need to figure out who can do their work and how to compensate them for the extra work. For example, giving them a gift card or a slight raise.
Create A Trusting Environment
A typical reason why someone may leave a business is that they don’t trust their co-workers. In any work environment, you need to be able to work with and trust your fellow staff. For your business, take a look at your company environment and culture, and see if there are any aspects that could be improved upon, like trust and communication.
Well, that answers “What is ghosting?”, and how to respond to ghosting. There are signs of ghosting to look out for that can predict whether a person may ghost you. It’s your job to spot these signs and prevent someone from ghosting you, if possible.